,,The secret of success is to do the common thing uncommonly well.” – John D. Rockefeller Jr.
Andreea Cosmina…….,,I start by telling you that I will be very honest and open. I will try to describe myself as I am and tell you a little about my past, so that you can understand what my plans are for this year.
I come from a modest family, I have three brothers, Nicu, Nelu and Marian who are 14, 12 and 10 years older than me. We are lucky that my parents are alive and that they are and were the most wonderful parents in the world that we are proud of.
I finished high school in 2008 and for financial reasons my parents could not support me to attend college and that is why I had to get a job to be able to help my family. I worked from 2008 to 2014 at SEWS-R as a quality technician. There, in 2009 I met my ex-husband, with whom I left for England in 2014 for a better life. That is what everyone who leaves the country says, although they do not know what awaits them there. We were two young people who left for the world with the hope that we would make a better life for ourselves and our families. The adaptation was very difficult, for 6 months I cried every day, but, seeing that life was better financially and that we could help our families, we decided to stay. We adapted and everything was fine, I managed to bring my brothers with me so that I could move on. In 2015, all of our brothers were there and our parents visited us very often.
Everything was fine, so Andrei (ex-husband, I’ll call him by his first name) and I decided it was time to become parents. We discovered that I couldn’t get pregnant without proper treatment. After long investigations, in 2017 when I was finally under treatment and was about to get pregnant, we discovered that Andrei had testicular cancer with metastasis to the lymph nodes of the pancreas. We stopped the fertility treatment and focused on healing him. Two major surgeries followed, after which he recovered well, thank God. Nothing without God.
From then on, all my focus was on him and from then on I began to degrade in all aspects, physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. I had started to not care about how I looked anymore, I gained a lot of weight, I just worked and took care of him and the house. He was and is an extraordinary man, a gentle and loving man, but unlike me, he changed throughout his healing process, becoming very individualistic and indifferent to what was happening around him. Including towards me. I saw this, but I didn’t want to deepen his suffering even more, even though he was fine, he was cured of cancer, he just went for regular check-ups. In 2019, we got married civilly, just so he could feel protected, that’s what he told me. I accepted. We had only become very good friends, the husband-wife relationship had disappeared. After 5 years, he was removed from the list of cancer patients, in 2022, being declared cured.
That’s when I started to relax and ask for help from specialists, because I didn’t feel good about myself. A period of 6 months followed in which I did psychological therapy. I finally dared to talk to him about our relationship that had deteriorated and that was the moment when he told me that he didn’t want to keep me tied to him anymore, because he couldn’t offer me a family and that he wanted to live freely and without obligations. We both decided that it was best to get a divorce, and that’s what happened. Since then, my change for the better began, I decided to return to Romania, to close that chapter in my life.
So in January 2024 I returned, leaving behind 10 years in which I didn’t know how to appreciate myself. My relationship with Andrei is still very good, we remained best friends.
I returned determined to rebuild my life from all points of view here, at home in Romania.
On the professional front, I started well, I quickly found a job, as an Assistant Manager, having experience in the field, it was easy for me, but nothing without God. That’s when I decided that it was time to start college, and here I am, a student.
On a sentimental level, what can I say, I met Cipri again after 15 years, Cipri being my first boyfriend with whom I couldn’t have a relationship 15 years ago for several reasons, long story. He was also coming after a divorce and somehow fate brought us back together. We are fine. First love is never forgotten.
On a personal level, physically, I managed to lose 33 kg and I want to maintain and continue to live a balanced life with food. I feel good in my own skin now and that’s what I want in the future, to maintain this level of confidence.
On an emotional/mental level, I admit that I still have work to do with myself, namely on the fact that I still try to make everyone happy and then myself. I still don’t put myself first, that’s why I propose to work on this intensely this year.”
